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How to take back control and become the director of your life!

Updated: Jul 10

Discover how to claim back your control, design and live your dream life with freedom to do all the things that make you really happy!

Dream Life Design is not about creating the Bahamas lifestyle of a cocktail by the beach!

It can be if you choose! but the point is that it you don't actually need to move careers or your relationships to claim your life of freedom.

Instead...I invite you to:

Imagine living a life with freedom to do all the things that make you really happy, being so happy with everything that you have created, having all that you have ever needed.

Now imagine this…. being in control of that life, making all the shots.

Claim this role! It’s yours to claim if you wish to take the challenge!

🎬The creating part of being in the director’s seat can be fun, exciting and empowering, knowing that you get to be the person that makes the decisions of how your life will look like.

Now this doesn’t mean to say the journey towards this story will be free of obstacles.

But getting clarity on your character in the storyline and where you are heading will help you make those difficult choices you are faced with, and to get back on track.

Throughout this blog I hope to inspire you;

🎬 that you too can create a life that has meaning to you.

🎬 to treat the journey of getting to this creation with compassion, excitement and inner strength.

🎬 on how to visualise the story you first wish to create.

Becoming the director of your life is like writing your story.

And every good story has a beginning, middle and an end.

🎬The beginning is where you are right now 🤷🏻‍♀️

Finding acceptance of your current situation is key to moving forwards.

This acceptance will allow you to invest your time in how to become the future version of yourself.

Acknowledge how you are feeling (whether that is anxious, uncomfortable, fed-up, stuck, exhausted).

Depending on how you are feeling, you may require a short term solution to find safety and stability.

🎬 The end is the part of the story which we may be tempted to take a sneak peak into straight away. Be you jump to the last page of the story to see what happens? 😱

The end is about the something that you wish to create, whether that is yourself, life or a venture. Wouldn’t it be amazing to know the ending that your aiming for?

🎬The middle part of the story is the journey that you embark on to reach the end. This is where the drama happens, the part in the story with twists and turns, lessons, hurdles, discomfort and pain.

But it’s also the part where growth exists. Where you move out of your comfort zone and experience change. Where you move from where you are right now to where you wish to be.

The middle part can be likened to being on a 🎢 rollercoaster 😲

Sometimes perhaps exciting! But it can also feel dark, unknown, scary and alone, like the foundations will crumble beneath you.

And in these times, there are two major tools that I take out of my tool box:

🧰 Scanning my existence to remind myself of my inner strength, that these moments soon past and I am abundant in resources to navigate my way through.


  • Having a focus that can remind you every day on how to best spend your time;

  • linking the challenges faced to where you are heading and as a small dot in the timeline.

  • seeing the challenges you will face in a lighter and more fulfilled perspective.

  • support you to navigate through the decisions that you will face

Here are some tips on becoming the Director of your story:

Everyone is unique in how they visualise. Some people will have an inner knowing, some people see colours, sounds, and for some, they can feel as if they are actually there.

The creative process of building a vision board allows the mind to practice connecting all aspects with which you enjoy and value through the subtle action of identifying and choosing. At a micro level, the subconscious is raising awareness to what you like and dislike. Here are some in-person and online options to help you along your way ➡️ designing your own unique Vision Board!

2. Believe in the impossible

…even if for now your visualisation feels like dreaming.

Allow yourself to feel excited that one day you will have achieved what felt impossible.

One way I love to do this is to meditate on my Vision Board and imagine my Vision is my reality.

3. Watch out for those pesky blockers!

Catch yourself saying

“I’m not …” “I don’t have…” “I will never…” “I can’t do…”

See these as hurdles, everyone has these. Your challenge, if you wish to accept, is to find a way of getting over the hurdles. Letting go of any obstacles that you think you have is a process in itself!

4. Create your roadmap! 

Although there may be moments where you can freestyle your journey to your dream life, a road map will help to fine tune your direction and decisions that you make keeping you focussed on your destination. In fact, once you have your roadmap, use it with flexibility! Your roadmap will take consideration of:

  • all the unhelpful beliefs and thoughts you have caught yourself saying. See your path as a river with dams along the way. Your role here is to allow the river to flow easily by knocking through the dams!

  • identifying and gaining the necessary skills, experience and qualifications;

  • what financial resources are required to acquire your vision;

  • and what support would be helpful or necessary along the way

Be challenging but realistic with your roadmap. Remember to look after yourself on the journey

5. Enjoy the journey!!

This has been the hardest lesson I have personally learnt. It can be very easy to want your vision immediately, and to do whatever it takes to acquire it. The danger in this approach, is that you miss out on all the beautiful experiences along the way.

Remember, It's the middle part of your story which provides meaning, shows growth and real change in yourself as a whole. It's the part where you will experience all the wins and lows, discover new things about yourself that may change your perspective. And the lows will help you to appreciates the wins even more!

Are you ready to thrive and create your story?

It's a full time commitment, but I promise you it has certainly been the most rewarding role by far!

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